By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. I'm the blueprint. Sometime in his life he thought of ya as forever. I've tried to reach out to her personally but she' doesn't seem to like me or goes and tells my bf that I've tried to contact her. My babydadd still calls me every three months, I actually thought we moved on ..He continues to come where I'm at ..acting silly. Ur allowing him to treat u that way. On top of co-parents underestimating the impact having a child with someone can have on future relationships, those who date people with children also underestimate all that can come with such situations. Smh worst feeling in the world is to love somebody that you can NEVER have!! If your boyfriend is confident, charming, and persuasive, you might think you've hit the jackpot. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have started doing other things that a boyfriend would do at around the same time that he started to call you mama. Answer (1 of 24): Depends. And hopefully, she can finally be back in my arms. but had you been on birth control he wouldn't have been able to "trap" you as you call it. Nicknames to Call Your Boyfriend. Any advice ? He wants to stay in her life . Unless you a have a child. Well yeah. Try to get him to bundle up all the time, even during sex. I agree . Check Yourself. He made it bed and now has his ex wife living with him and I am sure they're sleeping in the same bed. I thought we could come to a mutual agreement for the child. Take for example. What is love without respect? One thing I can tell you is there is a bond between two people who have shared a part of their lives together and brought children into their lives. I got out to find out she was pregnant by 1 of my friends! It basically means that he loves you so much and desires to have a family with you. He's a grown ass man. He has some issues with him, Did u put him on child support ? But if he's in love why did he cheat or why is she so understanding to what he wants and waiting on him like this I did cuz I was a kid then I think were 25 n hell he 28 this year n shes 30 so I dont get this love triangle but I'm out of it. He is a cake eater. I'll remove myself because he already blames me he can't be with anyone because I'll always try with him . Calling a girlfriend "mom" may signify one of three things: an affection, as a praise that you make him feel good; an insult, he is telling you that you are treating him like a mother hen; or a habit, he grew up around others who did it, so he believes it's a good thing. It's important for kids! our son is a month now but we.broke up Aug 17 and.didnt stop having sex until October while he was with his ex girlfriend/new fiancee..he left me for his ex..now after.we had our son we.doing so parenting he wants.to have sex. Sad, but true. Shes married my son seems to love the guy. I would have to say that his baby mama and kid(s) is a package deal to a certain extent because you would have to put up with her for as long as you are with him. I went to the doctor to make sure I was straight. I call my kids little love, baby, buddy, doll, honey, etc. If he did call you mama because he naturally calls women mama then it would be likely that he would have said it to other women as well and that he would show the same body language and behavior around them as he shows around you. The other day he didnt intorduce me as his gf to some people because he was scared what they would think about his relationship failing with her. . The ex wife kept bothering him with insignificant things. Two months ago, he called finally saying he wanted me to meet someone. My baby daddy cheated on me we been together three years he now has another baby by another female when every she leave him with nothing an fly back to Germany he always run back to me what should I do. Honestly, I would be interested as to why y'all haven't been able to meet one another. There seems to be this attitude of "men have needswhat do you expectfor him to be a monk for a year." I literally cry everyday . If this term is completely new to you and youre wondering what he means exactly, there are three possible reasons why hes calling you his baby mama: Lets take a closer look at these and how you might want to respond: Some guys use the term baby mama as part of their vocabulary and its totally normal to them while it might be totally foreign to you! Everytime he's with her and the kids hr has mr blocmed and i csnt grt a hold of him. I jst never had a woman that I bonded with like that!! Hes making it clear he wants children with you. The thought of wishing it would work out in the future? N always remember God made everything in two and so he will give you the right man! Find your own husband your never gong to have a life! Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. He is comfortable with u. Im in a similar situation but as the baby momma. It amazes me how people can point out others faults, but fail to realize you made bad choices also. We add new porn videos hourly. I have happily moved on with my life. I am well educated with four children by my ex husband. Because its coming. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. Use that logic to find someone dope and with no baggage. It's about the kids. 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I think men will always have a special place for their BM like a respect factor for the mother of their kids. Tell him to make her stop or send him right back to her if its so hard for him to set things straight and make her understand that he is with someone else so she should go on with her life too. She reply saying okay was just giving you the heads up or I think I dropped the tea. Everytime I do it just feels so wrong, so I end it immediately. 6 years ago. We were happy for over a year and a half, but broke up in March because he hung out with her to smoke late at night while I was out of town and didn't tell me. When trying to understand why he called you mama and the way that he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you. If he is texting her and talking to her about things other than the child I personally would not be in a relationship with him. My daughter father left about a year and a half ago. Baby mama drama, What do you do when your boyfriend dont defend you to his baby mama. If its not about the kid (or kids), do they really need to talk like that? So, on a night I went out to enjoy a close friend of mine birthday party, he called my phone wanting to come over, and bring me somethingbut I kept blowing him off until I eventually said "okay". The origin web server does not have a valid SSL certificate. The fact that a woman would give you her all, only for you to throw it away if the baby mama so much as wishes it.rather than feeling sorry for these future women.correct your issues before involving them. Please Help. Now when a guy says another girl is "cool by me" he is saying that she is a cool chick, he is cool with that girl, she is alright.Not necessarily that he is attracted to her or likes her. And sometimes despite how horrible a person the ex is, some people just never let go or move on. And she has a very tight relationship with his family. It isnt love. My sons angry but that is his father and we all do what we feel is best at the time. He dropped off pampers later that day and while intoxicated, attacked me because I filed for child support that day and I did not want to keep the baby. He Means it in a Romantic Way. I am ****ed but guess what. Said my mind's gone half crazy (Yeah) 'cause I can't leave you alone (And I just don't know) And I'm wonderin' if it's worth me holdin' on (I said I just don't know what to do now . he knew this and thought that if he got me pregnant i would somehow magically want to be with him when in fact it made matters worse. But be very aware when every move the baby mama makes requires input from your man. **** her I took care of her 9 years and have a 7 year old with her and she became a cold blooded killer after hanging out with her hoe friends could care less its me and my son time to go find a dime piece. And there are some moments they want share with each other: the first step, first word, an award or an upcoming event. So, what does it mean when a guy calls you mama? I really loved him and thought what we had was special. Reguardless of how long they have been together. He must have made a ton of money or you were paying for everything. I dont bother him I do everything for my son .. and she never contacted me about what happened almost like she dislikes the baby because he cheated with me thats his story and she chose to believe that, he always tried to sleep with me, when his out of town for work hes constantly calling me on FaceTime I chose not to answer and entertained him, I want you to do more for my son not flirting with me! Sounds like his wife is now in town. No need to take it personally. Unless you have kids with him already. cuz u know u have to deal with the drama that his baby mama will cuz. It would also be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him when trying to understand why he called you mama. We were in an 18yr relationship which eventually ended last year. To hit on me after 8 months of not sleeping with him and I kiss him back and now I feel.like a fool because..i know i would still sleep with him ..smh I say u left me for your ex and is engaged 6 months after you left me..he.told me once before I can't choose I said yes you can u you did already I need good advice because iam still in love with him Idk how that can be ..he hurt me bad..sorry for the long message just need some flood advice, Yeah I said same thing but i am a hypocrite because I almost slept with my sons father AND. Lots of mixed emotions. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. I have an amazing life. Whereas, if he only calls you mama and he shows different behavior and body language around you then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you. He's not a very social person through text so we really don't talk as often as I would like. If he reacts to seeing you by uncrossing his arms, sitting upright, adjusting his hair or clothing, raising his eyebrows and smiling, his pupils dilate, he makes space for you and he watches you as you enter the room then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you. I can never trust this biych ever again and I wish she would leave me alone . Oh and women, feel free also to give your advice/opinion. You made the right choice, even if he was being honest and said he didnt have a drop of love left for her, he said he did because of so and so. he will flirt with me and sometimes calls me baby My boyfriend has 2 baby mommas! The same goes for texting her. I have to make up in my mind that Im not dealing with his drama. It depends some people always have that love and some people don't. He should set bounders and let her know that your are first in his life. What does it mean a man call me BABY MAMA? We don't have a bad relationship we are great together makes me thinks something is wrong with me he doesn't want to be with me . 15 His Communication With Her Is Different From Other Friends. If he is your friend then it would be more likely that he was showing that he wants to be more than just friends with you and you should consider if he shows other signs of it when he is around you. This is a clear signal that he's really into you, wants a relationship, and is showing it by calling you baby. Nor does he spend any time with our daughter. A local ATL radio personality, Traci Steele, has a son with Chris Brown's DJ, DJ Babey Drew. He introduced her as his fiancee. In my experience, it's still a good nickname no matter how many times you've heard it. Jealousy is normal: This other woman was a big part of your man's life at one point, and the fact that they share a child is a big deal. Stop blaming the man for you being too stupid to protect yourself. Bottling up your concerns would only make you act irrationally and seem insensitive to your partner. women are spiteful ****. In fact, he just called me at 3 a.m. (with a female in the back) asking me to save the time and date. I never really stayed on the topic because I felt as if it was real he would say more than what he is saying now. Hell NO! Anyone that talks about his ex ( negative or positive) still has feelings invested in the ex. Dear Carolyn: My husband has a child by his ex-girlfriend. I get wanting to soend time with his kids but does this mean hes playing me? During 1st couple years was on and off with my bby daddy, after we realised were better going our separate ways to avoid arguments sake ect. He thought I was cheating, which I never did. An occasional message late at night is fine if it's . help? She knows all about me and I know all about her but we never met in person and when I tried to reach out to her myself she told my bf that I messaged her .. she blocked me too. I'm basically in the same situation. She is 7 months and he is just not telling me and his family. If he did call you mama because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language and behavior which could include: Mirroring your own body language. Deep down they are still hoping or wishing things had worked out differently, especially if there wasn't something major like abuse or cheating going on. He said he told her its over and the only time she must call him is about the baby, but she keeps calling and texting. I was dating this guy, and it was good. 10 Cleaning Rules for Roommates To Create A Spotless Home! should i just cut the relationship short?. But you can go by what you see and hear in order to make an intelligent decision. Maybe he likes all the attention hes getting from his girlfriendand from his ex. I have never met his baby mama. I always act like I don't hear him. It might seem like this guy is super amazing in the moment, but what is he demonstrating? I ignored her text and sent him an email with the screenshot of her text and asked if he could kindly ask her not to text me. But he says the love he has for me has been gone but I still want to be together. My bd and I were engaged before I got pregnant. I blocked his number. Blood relatives from those parts seem to look aside and not care when these married men take on a girlfriend on the side to "tide themselves over" while they're working long-distance. If he doesn't do it, let him go.hard as it may be you will be better off not having to share someone. 8 mths later domestic violence charge. Yes, parents need to discuss things: medical decisions, child care arrangements, grades and behavior. Why do u think he's doing this family thing all of a sudden. People are telling me that he will come back, but I do not know if I should be hopeful. If you love your man, make sure he will stand up for you when it comes to her and keep praying for her because these are the typical baby mama who end up having 4 or 5 kids for 3 to even 5 guys. He would contact me every 3-6 months to talk. Dont get me wrong the thought of another man raising your child partially is frustrating because even if you know how you would be as a step father , you know deep down that hell never love your daughter the way you do, maybe not at all. Have you bought cars or apartments for any of your exes? girls that go with married guys are looking for trouble, and then shocked when they find it! I'm assuming you don't need him around financially. i think they are still talking behind my back. She uses my kid against me one minute and keeps him while shes ****ing with different guys but then tells me how.much she loves me . I had nothing left in me. I tell them how i am still in love with my bm and if she ever decides to take me back. He told me he was sorry for all that happened he said I miss you. It means you act like a mom. I was with mine for over 5 years and I wound up going to prison for 11 months! I melt inside everytime I see her which is twice a week. OP, regardless of what might be going on, the bottom line is you deserve better treatment than this. 32:47. explicit permission. No where to go? But now my daughter with him is soon to be seven years old. Ignore the fact that the wife back home can't do the same. AS AN AMAZON ASSOCIATE, Body Language Central EARNS FROM QUALIFYING PURCHASES. About a week after he was texting me that he needs me, he loves me and wed be in each others arms soon. Been loyal to him since day one and the attraction for me is still there . The goal is always to de-triangle. and 2. he's never called me that before. My baby dad and I were still having sex after we broke up, and got a new gf. Knowing that those women will always own a part of him gets to me, can't lie. Happily with someone else. Just get out of this mess! Tell his baby mama. If that is the case then he might not actually have plans for the relationship in the long-term and he might be saying it to keep you happy for now. And yes your still with him you should work on self respect. They were never married. Show him you have self respect and know your worth. HE TOLD ME THEIR RELATIONSHIP ENDED LONG TIME AGO? my boyfriend now pampers me with love, care and attention. Then I caught her lying about seeing 2 other guys. Always asking me when Ima be home cause he's tired . If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). Does the child know you? It's not his wife it's him he's letting it happen ( he's an a**hole), any guy that leaves his family is dirt! I mean, there's just . If it is, you really need to either find a way to let it go, or you need to move on to a guy without a child. They like ages between 21-25. My sons father is 20. There might be a chance for humanity.. Trust, If you truly love this dude then talk to your bd in private about the kids Men are very territorial and regardless if a woman has a bd or not they dont like other men talking to their women. Do I act crazy? She needs to move on.. He tried to eat the bathtub But it wouldn't go down his throat. bigles2000. The SSL certificate presented by the server did not pass validation. Ladies say NO! Makes no sense bc his father wasn't in his life so why would he put our daughter through that knowing how it feels?! When he is home he barley spends time with my son. But i thought we where talking about when I was stuck in another country I just kinda brought it up cuz he blows me sometimes and I just wanna hurt him back. Wear high-waisted, lightly acid-washed jeans around the house. Am I wrong to feel that way? This is the beginning of her trying to make the relationship hell if he doesn't put a stop to it now it will continue to happen. This could indicate an expired SSL certificate or a certificate that does not include the requested domain name.